With our country’s rapidly aging population, the day may well come when you need to provide (or help to provide) care for an aging parent, friend or partner. Regrettably, many potential caregivers completely disregard this fact and are caught unaware. I speak from personal experience as I once thought that both Mom and Dad were the pictures of good health. Maybe so at one time; however, getting older is a fact of life and as we age, our health can decline.

The road from maintaining good health to requiring complete medical care and placement in a long-term care facility isn’t easy for either a senior or a family caregiver. Family members must take on new responsibilities as caregivers, balance their own lives, and watch as loved ones mentally and physically weaken. If remaining cognitively aware, older parents may realize that they are losing their prized independence and must hand over much of that control to their children. Whether it is his or her own car keys or complete decision-making ability, no one, young or old, likes to give up something he/she knows and loves.

A bit of preparation can make this process easier for all parties involved. Here are some ways to prepare for caregiving:

Prepare yourself emotionally.

As a caregiver, your emotions will run the gamut. When Dad was in his care home, there were days I laughed, cried, felt frustrated and didn’t even know what to feel. Often, there is nothing a caregiver can do but stand by and helplessly watch.

Whether the process is slow or quick, losing a loved one (or even the thought of losing this special person) can be immensely challenging and rightly so — you are losing someone you love and care for deeply. To better manage, build yourself a strong support circle; these will be the people you know and trust the most. Most importantly, they will be empathetic to your situation.

Support groups, offered through seniors’ organizations and health associations, can be another option. These will provide a safe environment where caregivers can share and learn from each other. Admitting to yourself, and others, that you need help — from whatever source — at this time is not a sign of personal weakness.

Examine your own family’s medical history.

Did a great-grandmother have cancer or did a great-grandfather suffer from heart disease? If the ailment is hereditary, another relative may be stricken with the same condition. Before your loved one ends up requiring eldercare, take some time to learn about the specific condition. Search the Internet (be wary of the source of information — what are the writer’s credentials?), visit your local library or, best of all, ask your family doctor what to expect.

Read the Will.